Kia Speaks

Hairography: The Joe and Tahiry Story

Hairography: The Joe and Tahiry Story

Season 1, episode 11 of Glee was entitled “Hairography.” Rapper Eve plays Grace Hitchens, the glee club director at Jane Adams Academy, an all-girl schools for troubled youth. Hitchens choir is competing against McKinley High in an upcoming showcase. Like…







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Fighting Fairly: 7 Steps to Save Your Relationship

Fighting Fairly: 7 Steps to Save Your Relationship

I recently heard someone say, “Get the lesson. Then the cost of your mistake is just tuition.” That’s a great way to look at life because undoubtedly, you will make mistakes, but if you learn the lesson and change your…







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Relationship Advice from Nicole Ari Parker: Become the Person You Want to Marry

Relationship Advice from Nicole Ari Parker: Become the Person You Want to Marry

Last week I had the opportunity to attend Spelman College’s Women of Color Leadership Conference. My experiences at Women of Color are always empowering and enlightening, and this year was no different. However, while the conference this year was focused…







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Masturbation: Love is Not Just a Verb; It’s You Looking in the Mirror

Masturbation: Love is Not Just a Verb; It’s You Looking in the Mirror

“You shouldn’t have to create a space for yourself in someone’s life. If they want you there, they will make room.” This was a “homemade quote” shared by Erin Harper on Facebook this morning. On a news feed filled with…







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Beyonce Taught Me: Three Relationship Lessons You Must Learn from Beyonce & Jay-Z

Beyonce Taught Me: Three Relationship Lessons You Must Learn from Beyonce & Jay-Z

In case you didn’t know, I have hood tendencies, so you shouldn’t be surprised by the fact that “Upgrade U” is by far my favorite Beyoncé video. The imagery used creates a picture of the Beyoncé I love. Not the poised,…







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Marriage Mondays: About Pre-Nups…

Marriage Mondays: About Pre-Nups…

On Friday, the Twitter streets were all abuzz over the fact that Kandi was asking Todd to sign a pre-nuptial agreement. In her Bravo blog dated January 24, Kandi does a great job of explaining her logic behind requesting a…







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Kanye Knocks Up Kim and T.I. Finds Comfort in My Bosom?!?!?

Kanye Knocks Up Kim and T.I. Finds Comfort in My Bosom?!?!?

Separation. It’s a word that should be respected. We’ve all seen what happens when we disrespect the marriage that accompanies the separation. Jack Bauer had an affair with Nina while he was separated from Teri. And once he decided to…







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The Death of Monogamy

The Death of Monogamy

You probably already know I’m a fan of monogamy and happily ever after, but not everyone is. In an environment where over 50% of marriages result in divorce, many find themselves questioning whether monogamy is a viable relationship option. The…







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Kenya, Baby, You’re Dehydrated: 3 Lessons to Learn from Miss Moore

Kenya, Baby, You’re Dehydrated: 3 Lessons to Learn from Miss Moore

Last night’s episode of the Real Housewives of Atlanta was painful to watch as Kenya Moore basically begged Walter to marry her on national television. This baby took thirst to an entirely new level. Seriously, she needed an IV drip…







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Single Ladies, Dating & Relationships: Kia Speaks in Ebony Magazine

Single Ladies, Dating & Relationships: Kia Speaks in Ebony Magazine

Guess who’s gracing the pages of Ebony Magazine. Yep, moi! You can find little ol’ me, along with five other gorgeous and intelligent ladies, on page 136 of the October issue of Ebony. Gabrielle Union is on the cover. What are we…







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