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Confessions: The Story of Girl Melanie

Confessions: The Story of Girl Melanie

As a kid, I was one of the few girls who didn’t jump on the Usher bandwagon. And then Confessions happened. While the entire album was amazing, and arguably Usher’s best ever, the title track is what stood out to…







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“I Hit It First”: Why Ray J and Kanye Are Both Douches

“I Hit It First”: Why Ray J and Kanye Are Both Douches

When I first saw the graphic for Ray J’s new single, I thought it was a joke. Let’s be honest, most of you have too much free time, so I assumed someone had spent an hour of their life playing…







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Masturbation: Love is Not Just a Verb; It’s You Looking in the Mirror

Masturbation: Love is Not Just a Verb; It’s You Looking in the Mirror

“You shouldn’t have to create a space for yourself in someone’s life. If they want you there, they will make room.” This was a “homemade quote” shared by Erin Harper on Facebook this morning. On a news feed filled with…







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Marriage Mondays: You Have Intrinsic Value

Marriage Mondays: You Have Intrinsic Value

Want to change the types of relationships you pursue or the way you behave in relationships? Realize that you have intrinsic value. Knowing this will change who you are at your core and dramatically improve the quality of the relationships…







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Where is the (Self) Love?

Where is the (Self) Love?

Nothing drives me to disdain more than an insecure woman. It hurts my feelings, breaks my heart, pisses me off, and disappoints me. Insecure women come off as weak, desperate, and clingy. And no one desires those qualities…not men, not friends, not even parents.

Despite my animosity towards the insecure, deep down I’m able to understand and relate to their struggle. In reality, it can be difficult to love and appreciate who you are. We live in a world of perfectly Photoshopped images, drive through plastic surgery shops, and artificially manicured personas. In a world where perfection can be purchased or faked at your convenience, how can a regular ole girl striving to keep it real not be a little insecure when she doesn’t meet the fake standard of perfection everyone else is embracing?













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