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I’m really appreciative of you guys clicking and reading each day. I rack my brain on a daily basis trying to think of new and fresh material for you, and I want you to know and understand that every click you make on my site is greatly appreciated! Already, in the first month of 2011, we have managed to collect almost as many clicks as we did during all of last year. And I only have you to thank.

Thinking of Tunisia :-)

Thinking of Tunisia :-)

Five years ago this spring I stepped out of my comfort zone and participated in a study abroad trip to Tunisia. This was a REALLY HUGE DEAL! I had never been out of the country, and as my first trip I chose to spend 6 weeks living with families who spoke French and Arabic (neither of which I spoke) in a Muslim country in a post-9/11 world. To put it mildly, I was scared. Afraid of messing up, paranoid of insulting an entire culture, and fearful of getting lost in a country where I didn’t speak the language.

The Post Game Show: I Hate the Characters and Malik’s a Hot Mess

The Post Game Show: I Hate the Characters and Malik’s a Hot Mess

I admit it. I’ve been one of the one’s constantly complaining about The Game, and its character development. Melanie has gone from Med School to Dr. Insecure Idiot, Kelly is a snob, Jason is a prick, and Derwin hasn’t changed at all. I used to love these characters, and now I can hardly stand to look at them for 30 minutes. But this week, I did fall in love with one character, and you may be surprised by which one—Malik.

What is the State of This Union?

What is the State of This Union?

Tuesday night my President delivered his third State of the Union address. Click the picture below to see video of the speech. It’s really easy to avoid politics. They can be messy, nasty, and even boring; however, this is your country. Take some pride in it before you wake up and do not recognize it. And remember, we do big things in America! *cues T.I.’s “Big Thangs Poppin'”*

Confession: I’m a Hoarder. Yeah, I Might Be…Probably So…Maybe…We Shall See.

Confession: I’m a Hoarder. Yeah, I Might Be…Probably So…Maybe…We Shall See.

I refuse to watch shows like Hoarders…because deep down I’m afraid watching that show will confirm my deepest fear: that I am a hoarder. :-( However, I may have confirmed that fear myself when I decided to clean out my closet during my surprise snow break two weeks ago. Let’s just say as I was cleaning out my closet, I ran across more Tommy Hilfiger and outdated Polo than I ever care to share. I found clothes that I hadn’t worn in years. Clothes that dated back to college…even high school. Clothes I knew I would never wear again. I was flabbergasted by the fact I was holding on to all these items. After about five minutes of cleaning out my closet, I found myself asking, “Why the heck am I keeping all this crap?”

As I was going through the process, I discovered there were four reasons why I was holding on to all these clothes I hadn’t worn in up to 10 years.

Some Folks Just Can’t Handle Your Greatness

Some Folks Just Can’t Handle Your Greatness

Over the last year or so, I’ve had one goal in life: To become the epitome of greatness. I don’t mean that arrogantly. It’s just become my personal philosophy that good and mediocre don’t cut it. God’s Word reads: “And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men” (Colossians 3:23), and if I were to do anything for God I would make sure it was great. Plus, if you’re not striving for greatness, then you’re wasting your time and effort. Either strive to be great or just sit down. Lukewarm is disgusting! (See Revelation 3:16)

When I say I don’t mean to be arrogant, I’m being sincere. I have no faith in my own ability to be great, but I do recognize the One who resides in me enables me to be great. I invite God’s guidance into every area of my life. And I trust that, like His Word says (Proverbs 16:3), because I commit every area of my life to Him, my plans will succeed. So, no, I can’t achieve greatness on my own, but through God it is possible and probable.

Unfortunately, I’ve discovered my strive for greatness makes some people around me uncomfortable. Now, I’ve never fully understood this concept. If you are happy being mediocre, why get upset with me because I want greatness? Why not let me do me while you handle your business? Why can’t you just let me be great?

Great Things for Free 99

Great Things for Free 99

Nothing’s better to a diva on a dime than fancy stuff for free. It gives her the opportunity to indulge in the premium products she loves while keeping her finances in order. That’s why I love www.citiesonthecheap.com. They provide hundreds of free and cheap deals that you’re sure to love. Here are some of the best deals I came across this week

90s R&B: The Xscaped Footage

90s R&B: The Xscaped Footage

I miss 90s R&B. You know: Toni Braxton, SWV, Jade, ol’ school Mariah Carey & Mary J. Blige. The list seems endless. The video below combines two of our favorites: Xscape (before they were signed) singing En Vogue’s hit “Hold On.” You will love it; I promise! Shouts out to @KamRenee for sending the video link. And while I love 90s R&B, I would be grateful if I never saw 90s fashion again. :-) Enjoy!

Where Are Your Words Taking You?

Funny thing happened yesterday. I was talking to one of my kids about a former student who I haven’t spoken to in two years. She was a really good kid with a lot of promise and potential, and I wanted to catch up to see how she was doing. A little over 24 hours later, she added me as a friend on Facebook. I was really amused at the timing of it all. It was like I spoke her up.

Proverbs 18:21 states: “Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit–you choose” (The Message Version). The words you speak result in the life you live. If you want something, say it, and eventually it will manifest.

What things are you speaking over your life? If you don’t like it, the solution’s simple. Change the sound! Speak the life you want to live into existence.

The Post Game Show: Stay Above the Influence

The Post Game Show: Stay Above the Influence

I’m seriously questioning whether The Game has the same writers and producers or whether The CW has higher standards than BET. Either way this is not the same show I fell in love with in 2006. As much as I’m confused by where they are going with the series right now, I must confess that I will keep watching. Maybe I’m addicted to The Game or just bad television in general. Whatever it is, I truly hope this show gets better. I’m rooting for The Game. Team Sabers!

Decoded: Part 1—My Initial Reaction

Decoded: Part 1—My Initial Reaction

During my unexpected winter break last week, I decided to finally crack open Jay-Z’s Decoded, our January book club selection. Before I could even read a word, I was awe struck by the beauty of the book. As someone who has laid out a couple of books, I was fascinated with the layout, graphics, and fonts and how they worked together to create graphic art. Now I understand why people have categorized this work as a coffee table book. It’s so pretty, I can’t even highlight, or write in the margins, or dog-ear the pages. 

Once I began reading Jiggaman’s story, I quickly realized that Decoded is more than a memoir. It is U.S. history told from a first-person point of view. Decoded is a historical account of how hip hop and social issues (such as crack, guns, and gangs) changed urban America and the world we all live in. It illustrates the evolution of rap music. It explains how seminal elements of hip hop culture, like Salt & Pepa’s “Push It,” NWA’s Straight Out of Compton, Dr. Dre’s Chronic, and movies like Boys In the Hood and Menace to Society, were birthed and how each influenced people throughout the world. You can’t call yourself a hip hop fan without reading Jay-Z’s Decoded.

Below is a reading guide for the remainder of the book. Please feel free to join us as we read by clicking here. If you haven’t begun reading, no worries. There is still plenty of time for you to pick up the book and start reading. Also please, Please, PLEASE send in your additional quotes, questions, and thoughts. This information will frame our final discussion that will take place on Saturday, February 5th @ 2pm. I can’t wait to see you there! Happy reading!

Dr. King from a Grown Up Perspective

Dr. King from a Grown Up Perspective

The first time I saw Coretta Scott King was at a Morehouse College King Day celebration my freshman year in college, January 2001. It was a surreal experience. She stood and greeted the audience as the host introduced her. There seemed to be an angelic glow around her. You know the foggy haze you see in movies…although I’m sure that was my imagination. In my memory, I was so close to her, but in reality, I’m not sure that wasn’t true either. I stood frozen…in awe. Her beauty, her elegance, her essences, she exuded womanly perfection, and at that moment, I became fully aware and overwhelmed by the King legacy.

Do Not Fear

Do Not Fear

“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand” (Isaiah 41:10).

Fear is a universal crippler. No matter what gender, race, ethnicity, or religion you are, fear has the ability to stop you dead in your tracks. You can be in the midst of doing something great, about to make a move that will change your life, or about to allow yourself to fall in love for the first time in a long time…then fear shows up. Fear interrupts your life, places doubt in your heart, and even causes you to disregard the plans of greatness. Fear can imprison you and turn your world upside down.