Engagements are one of my favorite parts of the holiday season. They just bring a special joy to an already happy time. Shout out to my college roomie, @1epic, on her recent engagement. Now that the holiday season is officially over, I’m sure just about everyone knows of someone who became engaged over the past two weeks. So I thought this would be a great time to use Marriage Mondays to share my personal engagement dos and don’ts.


1) Do share the news on social media, but not before your family and close friends know. There’s nothing worst than finding out your friend is engaged on Twitter from your sworn enemy. No one wants this to happen. 

2) Please get a manicure before posting pictures of your ring on the internet. This would seem like a given to most. Unfortunately, it’s not. I recall seeing a beautiful engagement ring on the most jacked up hand I’ve ever seen in life. And as beautiful as the ring was and as excited as I was for her, all I could think was, “Why didn’t you file your nails first?”

3) Do NOT become a bridezilla!!! Your wedding day should be one of the most wonderful days of your life. Unfortunately, I have witnessed way too many brides destroy that day (and the entire wedding planning process) by being a bitch?!?! In the words of a great internet counselor, “Keep calm and carry on.”

4) Ignore the noise. One of the biggest complaints I’ve heard from brides is that everyone, family, friends, and folks you really don’t like, feel need to express their opinions, help plan your day, and request invites to your ceremony. My advice: ignore them. Remember, it’s your day. Without being a bridezilla, do you and what makes you happy. Don’t have regrets because you followed the crowd and not your heart.

5) Don’t forget about the marriage. I love party planning, so I’m positive I would love planning a wedding. But I truly hope I don’t get so caught up in planning the party of the day that I forget to properly plan my forever with #HeyBoo. Once the celebration is over, we still have to go home together. And hopefully, we are able to do that knowing we have had all of the important discussions regarding our future.

Updated at 9:16 am EST with a great tip from @aisha1908. It really made me re-evaluate tip #1.

I think sharing the engagement on a social media site like FB is a bad idea. No matter how many family members you tell, some cousin or aunt or something will have missed the news & will learn on Facebook. Also, it gives hundreds (or thousands if you have that many Facebook contacts) the false notion of being part of the nuptials.  So when you’re whittling down invitations, in addition to family & offline friends pressuring [you] for an invite, FB friends are too.