I’m always fascinated by women who handle infidelity with class and dignity. Not long ago a friend told me of a pastor’s wife who walked in on her husband in bed with a church member. She walked out of the room without saying a word and later approached the church member and told her that she had prayed for her and that she forgave her. I know of another pastor’s wife who is all smiles as she serves on the same praise dance team with the woman who her husband cheated with. Growing up also I knew a lady who stayed with her husband after he fathered a child outside of their marriage. I was always amazed at the fact that she loved and cared for that child as if he were hers.
As someone who is extremely emotional, more vengeful and less forgiving than I would ever care to admit, I’m not sure I could handle infidelity from my lifelong partner with such class and dignity. It’s hard to hold your head high when the person who promised you forever has openly disregarded his vows in front of everyone you know. And even if you are able to hold your head high, I can only imagine the emotional breakdowns and outbursts that occur in private.
That has been the beauty of watching Mashonda, Swizz Beatz ex-wife, handle their divorce and his relationship with his pregnant fiancé, Alicia Keys. Thanks to the gift that is Twitter, the public was able to get a glimpse at Mashonda’s emotional outburst as she lashed out on Twitter, while we also witnessed her resilience when she attended Swizz Beatz’s birthday party and watched her then husband coupled up with his newfound love.
For a woman, dealing with infidelity is an odd tangle of strength and weakness. Mashonda acknowledges this in an exclusive, no holds bare interview with Vibe.com. In the interview she discuss her present feelings on Swizz Beatz and Alicia Keys, previous infidelity in their relationship, lost of their first child, and how she feels about Alicia’s upcoming child.
After reading part 1 of this interview, I walked away with an abundance of respect for Mashonda. She came off as a genuine, strong, and imperfect woman who loved hard yet still loss. She’s definitely been added to my list of women who’ve handled infidelity with class and dignity.
Read part 1 of Mashonda’s Vibe.com interview here.